Saturday, January 11, 2020

Love Yourself



Recently there was a big news in media about suicide of Kushal Punjabi. At the age of 37, this TV actor ended his life without no reasons, (according to us). He may have some reasons for the same. Last week one Software Engineer living near our colony ended her life leaving her 1.5-year-old daughter behind. We read, listen many news about such suicides. As per the WHO data India has around 17 suicides per 1 lacs population. This is alarming. Reasons behind may be different like debt, bankruptcy, illness, marriage issues, relationship issues, love affairs, alcoholism, Stress at workplace, fear of failure in studies etc. 

Relations issues, marriage issues are top reasons and men and women both end their lives because of such issues. Our lifestyle is changing, a lot of pressure at workplace, less time at home, having negative impacts on relationships. Every human being is running in the race. Uncertainty in jobs, increased liabilities and lifestyle are creating more stress in our lives. Further bad roads and traffic situations adding it more. People are becoming more self-centred. People are migrating from one place to another, small town to big towns for jobs and career. In this process we are losing the support system which we had in the past. In the past, joint families were the big support system. Nowadays, we have nuclear families. Interactions, family bonds, are fading away. People don’t encourage their friends, families to be with them. Everything is isolated. 

Loneliness is increasing, everybody wants to be in the capsule. Professionalism is taking away friends at workplace. Of course, it is resulting in mental illness and symptoms like anxiety, excessive worry, intrusive thoughts, depression, mood swings and many more. We are a social animal. We need somebody to share our feelings. And the important thing is that is missing in the lives of most people. People don’t have elevations. You have to express your frustrations, feelings, emotions. But because of the social structure and all the above reasons, it is arduous. Now imagine a situation, where the person is in depression and he or she has nobody to share at that moment. Where he or she will go?

We need a society where we feel free to express and have a stress-free communication. Introverted people will find difficult to express but we need that support systems. Parents need to be more inclusive and not push their children beyond the limit. They should not enforce their dreams on their children. Spouses needs to be more mature to understand the feelings of their partners. And we need to make more friends who will come to you when you need them.
And finally, be open and always speak up, express. Life is precious, love yourself.     

14 comments:

Unknown said...

Awesome Article.....Each and every area is covered for depression.

Unknown said...

Good article. This is today's truth that in the race of career aspirations,we are loosing our support system. Though this rat race has always been in the eco-system but the extent has increased gradually and sometimes we do not realise that repurcussion of this could be as fatal as suicide.

Anonymous said...

Absolutely true; today's work culture and professionalism has infact taken away friends at workplace. You never know, how your words and actions have been twisted around for personal gains....shame on this kind of culture. Time to rethink.........

Raj Gawade said...

In my views managers should observe behaviour of all his employees closely on regular basis and in case he gets some early indication of depression from any employee, he shall speak to the employee and also inform HR and HR in turn shall arrange counselling sessions for the employee. In our Company we did offer number of sessions from the professional counselor on our cost to the employee who was in depression and had developed bad habits. Corporate should also arrange number of trainings / sessions for all employees on life style management / mental health. 

Raviraj Shimpi said...

Nice sir , but only work culture and top managemt are the one who can change the scenario ..

Anonymous said...

Great article....Lack of interaction and communication is the root cause

Sandip Gaikwad

Anonymous said...

Need of the hour is to self realisation more often and speak to your manager, colleagues and family about it rather then assuming that you don't have no one to listen. It will surely work.

Anonymous said...

Smart phone addiction is the main cause now a days and it is creating disaster day by day. 

Ramesh Walia said...

It is big problem in today's world. One of the major reason is individual targets / KPIs. This way the employees focus on their own KPIs and forget the bigger picture. It is not the employees fault, it is the organizational culture which leads to individualism. Sometimes, sacrificing one individual KPI can lead to big gains for the organization.
It is important to have common goals, particularly at senior levels. This will promote teamwork , camaraderie and reduce conflicts / stress. The company prospers and hence employees also prosper. Working together for a common goal, succeeding together, supporting each other in case of failure etc can reduce loneliness. This will create a cohesive team who support each other and celebrate together.
NB: Within a team some individual goals will always be there but the major focus has to be The Team.

Anuraag Rai said...

“ Back to basics “ approach will help , Vinod -
To my mind parents , managers and leaders will have to be encouraged to strengthened - ability and willingness to listen , listen and listen 👂

Listening and building connect with significant self and others will be a good risk mitigation model.
Progressive organisations have already embarked on the journey of making listening leadership and organisation to serve stakeholders.

Anonymous said...

Need of the hour is to self realisation more often and speak to your manager, colleagues and family about it rather then assuming that you don't have no one to listen. It will surely work.

Sanil Gupta

Anonymous said...

I think psychological support systems should be built in to provide ongoing support enhancing employees wellbeing. These initiatives should be taken proactively rather than as medicine to cure the disease. Also organization's should promote the culture of listening without being judgemental.

Sonali Khatnani

Positive life said...

When I was a child I learned that other people were more important than me. My parents didn't tell me this with words, but by example. We can
https://lifewithnofears.blogspot.com/2019/06/tips-to-improve-your-self-esteem.html

Pankaj Bhatnagar said...

Besides friends,every one need to develoo and nurture one hobby..it can be anything from reading to running..having one hobby and pursuing it is a great stress buster

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