Dear Friends,
You are starting the new
journey of your life. This journey is not simple, it is not easy &
definitely not as you expect. This journey of the life will have full bumpy
rides. You are qualified to be independent and take your own decisions about
your life, your career and your future. Whatsoever you will decide will have
the impact on the future. Your actions will have the consequences on your
future.
And one important thing
is that you and only you will be responsible for your actions. It is you who
makes the difference.
You have to navigate very
smartly during this journey, understand the proper navigation system and of
course Google is not yet come up with such smart system yet.
I have few tips to make
this journey beautiful, meaningful and productive.
Perspective
I will start with my
story. When I was in the school, I had to cross the river to go at another side
of the river. As the river was not much big, there was no bridge built on the
river for commuting, we had to cross through the water, this was fun. However,
in monsoon we had to worry because due to heavy rains, river used to swell
& sometimes with full flood. and we had to wait to cross it till the water
subsides. During one day of the monsoon, after heavy flood, water stared to
subsides. I wanted to cross the river to go home immediately, but I was scared
as still water was flowing. Few of my friends were courageous and they crossed
the river.
I asked them from the
other side of the river bank, “Hay, how you did it? How do I get the other
side?”
One of the friends,
laughed and yelled back, “You are already on the other side.”
In life, there are perspectives. There is always another side, other side and we have to
understand that other side, other perceptive in life. Please understand that
you may be right, but others are also right.
Now
necessary everybody understands what you say:
Once a woman living in
our society dashed a biker while going out from the colony. All blamed her for
causing the accident without looking on the road while making a turn. She
angrily said, “Everybody knows that I turn left here during this time of every
morning.”
This is called as everybody know syndrome & we
believe that people know all our actions and they understand everything. This
assumption is dangerous and perhaps you may spoil the relationship.
Purpose
Find out the purpose in
life. Always ask the why. Why you did specific course? Why you want to make the
career in specific area? Why/ Why? Why? This will crystallise your thought
process. Find out the Purpose of your job career, life. Your purpose may change
after fulfilling the same. For time, your purpose can be simple, but work on
this. I realised that purpose is very important, but I had to spend almost 10
years to understand the purpose of my career.
What
is your core?
Being generalists is
good, but you need to be specialist in one. Find out that special skill?
Special capability, special competency of yours’. Find out what is your core.
Focus on core, nourish the core. You core can be anything. You will realise
that you have more than one core and you can nourish that. The cores will help
you to build the better career and better life. You may have different cores in
career and for living a happy life.
Take
calculated risk
I took so many calculated
risks in my life. I left the stable job which I got in Mahindra & Mahindra.
Perhaps it was the dream of everyone to work in M&M that time. I joined the
media company, Sakaal Media Group, different sector, differ culture. I learnt a
lot in this process and my all experiences are enriching. I am here todays
because I took risks in life, I took risks in profession.
Don’t
avoid conflicts
We tend to avoid
conflicts. Healthy conflicts are necessary. Be courageous to take confrontations
and conflicts. This does not mean that you fight or quarrel. Go for positive
conflicts, healthy conflicts, challenge and put your opinion. Be assertive and
don’t take everything.
IQ
is important but also focus on EQ/Cultural Q/Social Q
We can’t survive alone.
We need people, allies, enemies, critics, friends, families to support you.
They are integral part of the eco system.
While dealing with
different types of people you need to have interpersonal skills.
What
is EQ:
You understand emotions,
You control or use when
and for what reasons,
You understand other
emotions,
You put yourselves in
their shoes, show empathy,
You deal it with
positively with right strategy.
What
is CQ
You study different
cultures,
You are inclusive, recognise
& respect differences
You understand “why” in
behaviour
What
is SQ:
You understand the norms
of the society,
Challenge negative norms
but recognise that regularly that it is a part of society,
Educate and respect
different norms but don’t get influenced.
Make
yourself redundant
World is changing very fast. You don’t know
what is in the future, but at least we can predict the future. There are new
trends, new challenges, new opportunities too. If you want to grow in your
career, make yourself redundant. Yes, allow to grow others and imagine, your
skills today are not at all useful, what will you do? You will learn new skills
to survive. Exactly so don’t wait for redundancy, instead make yourself redundant
and try something new.
Believe
on intuition
Tim Cook once said, “For
the most important decisions in your life, trust your intuition, and then work
with everyone you have to prove it right.”
Sometimes, we have to
believe on our intuition and take a decision in life, however it is you to make
it work.
Besides this
Focus
on learning
Focus
on behavioural skills along with functional skills
Be
aligned with your Vale system
Network
& influence
And finally Enjoy the journey.
I wish you all the best
and I am sure that you will create your own footprints and help others to create
their own.
Cheers & enjoy the
moment.
Vinod
Bidwaik
Date: 08/12/2018
