The Complete Man

Raymond had rolled out the “Complete Man ad” in 1992 and over a period of time it received lot of attention. Complete man is also a successful man. 'The Complete Man' for Raymond, a metrosexual, caring, family man who was very different from the way men were portrayed in the 70s and 80s. "That was the angry young man era.

Complete man is successful man but also a caring father, doting husband, or good friend.  He is always looking elegant in a crisply ironed Raymond suit.

But does well dressed man made a good and really complete man with complete life?

To get the fulfilled life is a struggle. You get money & career and loose family and fun. However our focus should be to get the completeness of life. Then only we can call ourselves a Complete Man.  

According to me following area are important. When we have something in all areas, we can say we have a fulfilled and complete life and we are then complete man.

1. Family/Friends
2. Spouse/Partner/Significant Other/Romance
3. Career
4. Finances
5. Health (emotional/physical/fitness/nutrition/wellbeing)
6. Physical Environment/Home
7. Fun/Recreation/Leisure
8. Personal Growth/Learning/Self-development
9. Spiritual wellbeing (not necessarily religion – can be sense of self)
10. Community and Social Life like 

This also include in Wheel of Life.

> Please change, split or rename any category so that it’s meaningful and represents a balanced life for you.

> Next, taking the center of the wheel as 0 and the outer edge as 10, rank your level of satisfaction with each area out of 10 by drawing a straight or curved line to create a new outer edge.

> The new perimeter of the circle represents your ‘Wheel of Life’. Is it a bumpy ride?

Let’s ask ourselves & think about what success feels like for each area. If you rate all areas on the scale of 1-10, how would you rate? 

Happy New Year 2015

Resolution of following the resolution

Do you make the list of resolutions to be followed in New Year? The question is how to follow the same. I remember, when I was in college, I use to make the big list of resolutions.

From 1st Jan,

I will wake up early in the morning

I will start daily exercise

I will study at least one subject after the exercise

I will enroll for additional diploma

I will spend at least one Sunday with underprivileged children and so on….

When I look back and review why resolutions are not followed, I get simple answer and it is we do not commit to ourselves. We recognize the importance of resolutions. That’s why we make it. But it does not come from our heart as they are not priorities for us. You just check the list of resolutions people do. If you do not follow these resolutions, you do not suffer so much immediately. Unless we do not make them the priority we would not be able to follow them.

Second reason is we do not convert them into objectives and goals. And when you convert them into the goals, you are forced to put the timeline. Most of the times, it is wish list we make and label them resolutions.

We have lot of excuses to break these resolutions. We do not plan them properly. Sometimes we do it for 15 days and then we forget…

So on the eve of last day of this year, at least make one resolution...

“Whatsoever, I make any resolution; I make it to happen.”

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Happy New Year

With the first rays of the Sun on the Earth and with the first day of the week, 2015 will be started. New beginning is ahead. There are lot many things to do in New Year; Lot of plans and resolutions. (http://vinodtbidwaik.blogspot.com/2010/12/resolution-of-following-resolution.html) 1st Jan is the same as yesterday, but with new hopes.

Yesterday on one TV show, one actor asked another one, “What does New Year mean for you?” Actor replied, “When my wife asks me to bring new calendar, I assume that the New Year is ahead.”

Earth rotates around the Sun as usual, birds go out from their nest as usual, but for human being, it is the new day for new thinking. Human being thinks what he has achieved, gain in a last year and what he would achieve in New Year. However we should not forget the spirit of enjoying the New Year. We keep back the baggage and hope for the best in New Year. Somebody may say that 2014 was more challenging and volatile, but that is the life. It gave you total new experience. There is one English movie, “Clean Slate”. In this movie one character suffers one type of amnesia, when he goes to sleep each night he forgets everything that happened to him before that time. A woman who had cheated him asked him to forgive. The character even is not aware what she did with him and he is totally clueless.

As you welcome the New Year, your past has nothing to influence your future. The great year is ahead with hopes and lot of positive energy. If you believe on the “Law of Attraction”, then this year will bring more joy and positive energy in your life. No matter what has happened in last year, you have the power to create your next year as you choose. For this you have to choose the freedom of choosing. (http://vinodtbidwaik.blogspot.com/2011/02/do-you-have-choice.html) You are now deeper, wiser, and stronger by one more year.

Wish you all Happy New year! May this New Year 2015 bring for you happiness, success, health, prosperity and wonderful surprises in your life!”

Cheers!

Christian - The Lion, The Story of Love

Somebody sent me this clip on WhatsApp few days back. This clip is mind-blowing. This is a true story. The cub who was put for the sell was taken by two friends, John and Ace. 

Cub and friends developed great relationship. Due to the space, the lion is sent at South Africa. The lion become wild and the leader of the group, pride. When John and Ace decided to visit South Africa to meet the big cat, they were told that the animal is wild and leader of his own pride and would not remember his old friends…

It was big surprise for all when Lion responded in a unique way… see what’s happened next…       

Kaash… Human would learn something from such animals… 

Do you have your PDP, IDP?

We always think that the Personal Development Plan (PDP) or Individual Development Plan (IDP) is the responsibility of employer. We have the basic postulation that company is responsible for everything related to us, either development or career because we think that companies hire & keep us because we are indispensable. It is true that if company puts efforts in developing employees, their productivity may increase. But at the end of the day, is it only employer’s responsibility? It is also employee’s responsibility.

Someone (perhaps me :-)) has rightly said that we are the driver of our own growth, our own career, our own life and we should independently think on our own development. In this process if organization is supporting, it is well and good. However first you should be ready with your plan.

How many times we are clear in life about ourselves?

Have you challenge yourself?

What is that time, when you ask yourself what you want to do in the life and what you want to achieve within next 5 years, 10 years etc.

Second question, how many time you have reflected on “where are you today?” you may want to be the Vice President within next 5 years, but have you thought on your current status of strength, development areas, situation, circumstance etc.?

Further have you asked yourself, “How would you achieve your goals as asked in question number 1? What are that efforts you would take to go there? Learning, developing or just changing the job??

Frankly speaking and after interacting with so many people, I have found very few people who have such plans in place. Those few people may not call the plan as PDP or IDP, but they have all  answers on all above questions. Rest of the people flow in life as per the organizational, society, community flow…     

If you would like to reflect & want to make a PDP/IDP, just follow the process of:

Thinking about where you are now, what you like/dislike, reflecting on your strengths and improvements you would like to achieve.

Planning where you want to get to, what skills and knowledge you will need to develop and how you will acquire them via learning opportunities open to you.

Doing – putting your action plan into practice; recording the development you make; identifying when you have reached a goal.

Reflecting on your learning and achievement and, in the light of this, where you want to go next (and so the cycle begins again)

It is not so simple & easy, but just try…you will come to know your true potential. 

New year is approaching…may be good idea to work on… but don’t take it as a resolution, take it as a commitment. Commitment to yourself.

Need help? Just write….